We aim to please, and so saying “no” to a request can be a hard thing to do. We don’t like to introduce negativity into the conversation, cause a possible confrontation, or have someone think less of us because we don’t agree. That said, it’s often important to turn things down. We can’t do it all.
To say no is about respecting your own time and making sure you’re not spreading yourself too thin. Helping people can be great, but if you say yes to everyone who asks you’ll never be able to do it all.
Understand Your Situation to Avoid the Guilt of Saying “No”
When you’re confronted with a situation in which you have to say “no,” your approach is going to depend on the circumstances. A request for your hard-earned money, dwindling time, hand-me-down sweaters, unrivaled affections, crock pot buying advice, and semi-valuable petition signature may all require a different kind of “no.” It depends on how you feel about the situation, who’s asking you for help, and whether your resources you have available in the request’s category.
Often times the guilt from saying “no” can stem from not really feeling confident in the reason why you said it in the first place. If you think about these things ahead of time and understand why you don’t want to sign a petition or donate money to a cause you support when asked on the street, you won’t leave with guilt sinking into the pit of your stomach.
This way, when someone makes a request you’ll be able to ask yourself “do I want to do this?” and receive a quick answer you can trust.
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