Neuroscience of Breathing Techniques – Ted Talk (Video)

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Neuroscience of Breathing

Breathing is an action that we are all aware of, but are we taking full advantage of this action?

By taking full advantage of different breathing exercises we can enjoy positive effects in our daily lives.

Alan Watkins’ Ted Talk takes you into the neuroscience of breathing techniques, allowing us a look at breathing through a scientific filter.

Neuroscience of Breathing Techniques

In the second half he talks about how breathing techniques work physiologically. He mentions that there are 12 different ways that the breath can be adjusted, but only talked about the most important three:

Rhythmically
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Location of the focus during the breath (in the center of the chest)

To remember this, Dr Watkins uses the acronym B.R.E.A.T.H.E:

Breathe
Regularly
Through the
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Everyday

Psychedelic Art Born From Science – Fabian Oefner (Video)

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Psychedelic Science Art

Fabian Oefner brings together the world of science and art to create psychedelic images. 

Ted Talks are refreshing because of the passion exhibited by the talkers. Psychedelic science art is born from taking, sometimes hazardous materials and creating chemical reactions which Fabian Oefner catches through his cameras.

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Swiss artist and photographer Fabian Oefner is on a mission to make eye-catching art from everyday science. In this charming talk, he shows off some recent psychedelic images, including photographs of crystals as they interact with soundwaves.

And, in a live demo, he shows what really happens when you mix paint with magnetic liquid–or when you set fire to whiskey.

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Learn Anything in 20 Hours – Josh Kaufman Ted Talk (Video)

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You may be familiar with Malcolm Gladwell and his theory that it takes 10,000 hours of practice to become an expert in a given field.

Josh Kaufman believes that this theory may be a tad misleading. Through his research, he’s found that it in fact only takes 20 hours of attentive practice to become proficient at any activity.

The First 20 Hours – How to Learn Anything: Josh Kaufman at TEDxCSU

Josh specializes in teaching people from all walks of life how to master practical knowledge and skills. In his talk, he shares how having his first child inspired him to approach learning in a whole new way.

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Change Your Life in 2 Minutes a Day – Power Pose (Guide)

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Your body language shapes who you are. It shapes how you are viewed by others, and even how you view yourself.

Social Psychologist Amy Cuddy’s scientific work delves into the possibility that choosing to pose your body in different ways actually changes the ratio of the hormones that are produced in your brain.

High Power Poses decrease the amount of Cortisol (known as the stress hormone) while increasing the amount of Testosterone, leading to feelings of empowerment, increased confidence, and affability.

Expectedly, Low Power Poses raise the amount of Cortisol in the brain and decrease Testosterone, leading to feelings of anxiety, low self confidence, and general awkwardness.

Only two minutes a day in High Power poses can change the way you feel and approach life. Try it out for yourself – and remember:

If you feel like you shouldn’t be somewhere: Fake it. Do it until you make it – until you become it! – Amy Cuddy

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Incredible Living Paintings, Alexa Meade Art Gallery

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Alexa Meade is creating fascinating art, and she’s just getting started. Without any formal artistic training (and a bachelors in poli-sci to boot), Alexa has taught herself how to paint through innovating a new technique. 

Her unique style of painting “living portraits”, confounds our sense of space which allows the subject to completely collapse within the photographs of her work. 

“In some ways, artist Alexa Meade is a traditional figure painter. But she works on an unusual canvas: the actual human body. And she takes a classical concept — trompe l’oeil, the art of making a two-dimensional representation look three-dimensional — and turns it on its head. Her aim is to do the opposite, to collapse depth and make her living models into flat pictures.” -PBS

Artist Alexa Meade’s Canvas Is the Human Body

 

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I paint representational portraits directly on top of the people I am representing. The models are transformed into embodiments of the artist’s interpretation of their essence. When captured on film, the living, breathing people underneath the paint disappear, overshadowed by the masks of themselves. – Alexa Meade

Alexa Meade’s exhibit at Postmaster’s Gallery

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Exploring Consciousness with Psychedelics – Graham Hancock Ted Talk (Video)

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Graham Hancock explores the shamanistic use of psychedelics that create a state of being which brings us a greater understanding of our true nature and the nature of consciousness; in order to harmoniously balance our Earthly existence within the universe.

The War on Consciousness – Graham Hancock Notable Excerpts

Another universal experience of Ayahuasca is the encounter with seemingly intelligent entities which communicate with us telepathically, now I’m making no claim one way or another as to the reality status of these entities we encounter. Simply that phenomenologically in the Ayahuasca experience they are encountered by people all over the world and most frequently of all, the spirit of Ayahuasca herself; Mother Ayahuasca, who is a healer. And although she’s kinda the mother goddess of the planet. She seems to take a direct personal interest in us as individuals. To heal our ills, to want us to be the best we can possibly be, to correct errors and mistakes in our behaviors that may be leading us down the wrong path.

Ayahuasca has been fantastically successful at getting people off harmful addictions to hard drugs such as heroin and cocaine. Jacques Mabbit at the Takiwasi Clinic a in Peru brings heroin and cocaine addicts out there for a month. Gives them 12 Ayahuasca sessions and they have encounters with Mother Ayahuasca during those sessions that lead them not to wish to take heroin up again anymore and more than half of them leave completely free of their addiction never return to it and don’t even have withdrawal symptoms. And the same incredible healing work was being done in Canada by Dr. Gabor Maté until the Canadian government stopped and intervened his healing practice on the grounds that Ayahuasca itself was an illegal drug.

What is death? Our materialist science reduces everything to matter. Materialist science in the West says that we are just meat. We’re just our bodies. When the brain is dead that’s the end of consciousness there is no life after death, there is no soul, we just rot and are gone. But actually many honest scientists should admit that consciousness is the greatest mystery of science.

This is the paradigm of all spiritual traditions; that we are immortal souls, temporarily incarnated in these physical forms to learn and to grow and to develop.

Let’s not forget that Ayahuasca is not alone. That it’s part of an ancient worldwide system of the targeted, careful, responsible alteration of consciousness. It’s recently been shown by scholars that the Kykeon used in the Eleusian Mysteries in Ancient Greece was almost certainly a psychedelic brew. The Soma of the Vedas may have been a brew based off of the amanita muscaria mushroom. We have the DMT in The ancient Egyptian Tree of Life. We have the whole global cultures of surviving shamanism and what it’s all about is a state of consciousness that’s designed to help us find balance harmony, the Ancient Egyptians would have called it Ma’at, with the universe and to remain mindful that what we’re here to undertake on Earth while immersed in matter is fundamentally a spiritual journey aimed at the growth and perfection of the soul. A journey that may go back to the very origin to what made us human in the first place.

If we as adults are not allowed to make sovereign decisions about what to experience with our own consciousness, while doing no harm to others. Including the decision to use, responsibly, ancient and sacred visionary plants then we cannot claim to be free in any way.

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Neuroplasticity, Meditation and Happiness – Willoughby Britton Ted Talk (Video)

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Neuroplasticity: The brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. Neuroplasticity allows the neurons (nerve cells) in the brain to compensate for injury and disease and to adjust their activities in response to new situations or to changes in their environment.

In this Ted Talk, Willoughby Britton focuses on  neuroplasticity and mindful meditation through the scope of happiness.

The practice of meditation builds stronger and healthier neural pathways that lead to better habits.

Willoughby Britton – Neuroplasticity, Meditation and Happiness Notable Excerpts

If we get everything we want and get rid of everything we don’t want; we’ll be happy. It makes sense. Totally logical. Totally wrong. That’s just not the way the data has turned out to be. We’re one of the richest countries on the planet but we’re not really one of the happiest. And the people that are the richest in our country are not necessarily happier than the poorest people in our country.

Getting what we want doesn’t necessarily equal happiness.

Another thing that we know about happiness…it seems to be inextricably linked to the faculty of attention, or more specifically; our pervasive tendency or habit to not pay attention.

A wandering mind is an unhappy mind.

Our brain changes with experience and we get good at what we practice…if you exercise your physical body certain muscle groups get stronger, certain movements get easier and they become effortless and automatic. The brain is no different. The neural networks that you exercise becomes stronger and the thought patterns and mental habits that are represented by those neural networks get stronger and become effortless and automatic…

The most powerful way to change your brain is not medication, it is behavior.

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Bring on the Learning Revolution – Sir Ken Robinson Ted Talk (Video)

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Sir Ken Robinson outlines the problems of a linear standardized education. Its time to throw the old model out and revolutionize education towards a model that builds an environment where children may explore their talents, find their passions, and are given room to flourish.

Bring on the Learning Revolution Ted Talk – Notable Excerpts

…education, in a way, dislocates very many people from their natural talents. And human resources are like natural resources; they’re often buried deep. You have to go looking for them, they’re not just lying around on the surface. You have to create the circumstances where they show themselves. And you might imagine education would be the way that happens, but too often it’s not.

Every education system in the world is being reformed at the moment and it’s not enough. Reform is no use anymore, because that’s simply improving a broken model. What we need — and the word’s been used many times during the course of the past few days — is not evolution, but a revolution in education. This has to be transformed into something else.

One of the real challenges is to innovate fundamentally in education. Innovation is hard because it means doing something that people don’t find very easy, for the most part. It means challenging what we take for granted, things that we think are obvious. The great problem for reform or transformation is the tyranny of common sense; things that people think, “Well, it can’t be done any other way because that’s the way it’s done.”

I came across a great quote recently from Abraham Lincoln…”The dogmas of the quiet past are inadequate to the stormy present. The occasion is piled high with difficulty, and we must rise with the occasion.” I love that. Not rise to it, rise with it. “As our case is new, so we must think anew and act anew. We must disenthrall ourselves, and then we shall save our country.”

many of our ideas have been formed, not to meet the circumstances of this century, but to cope with the circumstances of previous centuries. But our minds are still hypnotized by them, and we have to disenthrall ourselves of some of them.

One of them is the idea of linearity: that it starts here and you go through a track and if you do everything right, you will end up set for the rest of your life. Everybody who’s spoken at TED has told us implicitly, or sometimes explicitly, a different story: that life is not linear; it’s organic. We create our lives symbiotically as we explore our talents in relation to the circumstances they help to create for us.

human communities depend upon a diversity of talent, not a singular conception of ability…At the heart of the challenge is to reconstitute our sense of ability and of intelligence. This linearity thing is a problem.

The other big issue is conformity. We have built our education systems on the model of fast food…there are two models of quality assurance in catering. One is fast food, where everything is standardized. The other are things like Zagat and Michelin restaurants, where everything is not standardized, they’re customized to local circumstances.

we have sold ourselves into a fast food model of education, and it’s impoverishing our spirit and our energies as much as fast food is depleting our physical bodies.

…human talent is tremendously diverse. People have very different aptitudes…But it’s not only about that. It’s about passion. Often, people are good at things they don’t really care for. It’s about passion, and what excites our spirit and our energy.

You know this, if you’re doing something you love, an hour feels like five minutes. If you’re doing something that doesn’t resonate with your spirit, five minutes feels like an hour. And the reason so many people are opting out of education is because it doesn’t feed their spirit, it doesn’t feed their energy or their passion.

We have to move to a model that is based more on principles of agriculture. We have to recognize that human flourishing is not a mechanical process; it’s an organic process. And you cannot predict the outcome of human development. All you can do, like a farmer, is create the conditions under which they will begin to flourish.

There’s been a lot of talk about dreams over the course of this few days…I wanted to read you a quick, very short poem from W. B. Yeats…”Had I the heavens’ embroidered cloths, Enwrought with gold and silver light, The blue and the dim and the dark cloths Of night and light and the half-light, I would spread the cloths under your feet: But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.” And every day, everywhere, our children spread their dreams beneath our feet. And we should tread softly.

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What’s Invisible? More Than You Think – John Lloyd Ted Talk Animated (Video)

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The part of existence that we cannot see is constantly at work and our understanding of these concepts at the moment is limited. John Lloyd presents all that is invisible in a lighthearted approach that is mentally stimulating.

John Lloyd – What’s Invisible? More Than You Think – Animated Ted Talk Transcript

So the question is, what is invisible? There is more of it than you think, actually. Everything, I would say, everything that matters except every thing, and except matter.

We can see matter. But we can’t see what’s the matter.

We can see the stars and the planets. But we can’t see what holds them apart, or what draws them together. With matter, as with people, we see only the skin of things. We can’t see into the engine room. We can’t see what makes people tick, at least not without difficulty. And the closer we look at anything, the more it disappears. In fact, if you look really closely at stuff, if you look at the basic substructure of matter, there isn’t anything there. Electrons disappear in a kind of fuzz, and there is only energy. And you can’t see energy.

So, one of the interesting things about invisibility is that things that we can’t see we also can’t understand. Gravity is one thing that we can’t see, and which we don’t understand. It’s the least understood of all the four fundamental forces, and the weakest. And nobody really knows what it is or why it’s there.

For what it’s worth, Sir Issac Newton, the greatest scientist who ever lived, he thought Jesus came to earth specifically to operate the levers of gravity. That’s what he thought he was there for. So, bright guy, could be wrong on that one, I don’t know.

Consciousness. I see all your faces. I have no idea what any of you are thinking. Isn’t that amazing? Isn’t that incredible that we can’t read each other’s minds. But we can touch each other, taste each other perhaps, if we get close enough. But we can’t read each other’s minds. I find that quite astonishing.

In the Sufi faith, this great Middle-Eastern religion, which some claim is the route of all religions, Sufi masters are all telepaths, so they say. But their main exercise of telepathy is to send out powerful signals to the rest of us that it doesn’t exist. So that’s why we don’t think it exists, the Sufi masters working on us.

In the question of consciousness and artificial intelligence. Artificial intelligence has really, like the study of consciousness, gotten nowhere. We have no idea how consciousness works. With artificial intelligence, not only have they not created artificial intelligence, they haven’t yet created artificial stupidity.

The laws of physics: invisible, eternal, omnipresent, all powerful. Remind you of anyone? Interesting. I’m, as you can guess, not a materialist, I’m an immaterialist. And I’ve found a very useful new word, ignostic. Okay? I’m an ignostic. I refuse to be drawn on the question of whether God exists, until somebody properly defines the terms.

Another thing we can’t see is the human genome. And this is increasingly peculiar. Because about 20 years ago, when they started delving into the genome, they thought it would probably contain around 100 thousand genes. Every year since, it’s been revised downwards. We now think there are likely to be only just over 20 thousand genes in the human genome.

This is extraordinary. Because rice, get this, rice is known to have 38 thousand genes. Potatoes, potatoes have 48 chromosomes. Two more than people. And the same a gorilla. You can’t see these things. But they are very strange.

The stars by day. I always think that’s fascinating. The universe disappears. The more light there is, the less you can see.

Time, nobody can see time. I don’t know if you know this. Modern physics, there is a big movement in modern physics to decide that time doesn’t really exist. Because it’s too inconvenient for the figures. It’s much easier if it’s not really there. You can’t see the future, obviously. And you can’t see the past, except in your memory.

One of the interesting things about the past is what you particularly can’t see, my son asked me this the other day, he said, “Dad can you remember what I was like when I was two?” And I said “Yes.” And he said, “Why can’t I?”

Isn’t that extraordinary? You can not remember what happened to you earlier than the age of two or three. Which is great news for psychoanalysts. Because otherwise they’d be out of a job. Because that’s where all the stuff happens that makes you who you are.

Another thing you can’t see is the grid, on which we hang. This is fascinating. You probably know, some of you, that cells are continually renewed. Skin flakes off, hairs grow, nails, that kind of stuff. But every cell in your body is replaced at some point. Taste-buds, every 10 days or so. Livers and internal organs sort of take a bit longer. A spine takes several years. But at the end of seven years, not one cell in your body remains from what was there seven years ago. The question is, who, then, are we? What are we? What is this thing that we hang on, that is actually us?

Okay. Atoms, you can’t see them. Nobody every will. They’re smaller than the wavelength of light. Gas, you can’t see that. Interesting. Somebody mentioned 1600 recently. Gas was invented in 1600 by a Dutch chemist called Van Helmont. It’s said to be the most successful ever invention of a word by a known individual. Quite good. He also invented a word called blass, meaning astral radiation. Didn’t catch on, unfortunately. But well done, him.

Light. You can’t see light. When it’s dark, in a vacuum, if a person shines a beam of light straight across your eyes, you won’t see it. Slightly technical, some physicists will disagree with this. But it’s odd that you can’t see the beam of light, you can only see what it hits.

Electricity, you can’t see that. Don’t let anyone tell you they understand electricity. They don’t. Nobody knows what it is. You probably think the electrons in an electric wire move instantaneously down a wire at the speed of light when you turn the light on. They don’t. Electrons bumble down the wire, about the speed of spreading honey, they say.

Galaxies, 100 billion of them, estimated in the universe. 100 billion. How many can we see? Five. Five, out of the 100 billion galaxies, with the naked eye. And one of them is quite difficult to see unless you’ve got very good eyesight.

Radio waves. There’s another thing. Heinrich Hertz, when he discovered radio waves in 1887, he called them radio waves because they radiated. And somebody said to him, “Well what’s the point of these Heinrich? What’s the point of these radio waves that you’ve found?” And he said, “Well, I’ve no idea. But I guess somebody will find a use for them someday.”

The biggest thing that’s invisible to us is what we don’t know. It is incredible how little we know. Thomas Edison once said, “We don’t know one percent of one millionth about anything.”

And I’ve come to the conclusion because you’ve asked this other question, “What’s another thing you can’t see?” The point, most of us. What’s the point?

But, the point, I’ve got it down to is there are only two questions really worth asking. “Why are we here?” and “What should we do about it while we are? And to help you, I’ve got two things to leave you with, from two great philosophers, perhaps two of the greatest philosopher thinkers of the 20th Century. One a mathematician and an engineer, and the other a poet.

The first is Ludvig Vitgenötajn who said, “I don’t know why we are here. But I’m pretty sure it’s not in order to enjoy ourselves.” He was a cheerful bastard wasn’t he?

And secondly and lastly, W.H. Auden, one of my favorite poets, who said, “We are here on earth to help others. What the others are here for, I’ve no idea.”

Schools Kill Creativity – Sir Ken Robinson Ted Talk (Video)

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Sir Ken Robinson shares many uplifting ideas and stories to support his movement for a drastic change in our method of educating all humans. Intelligence is diverse. Education at the moment uses more of an assembly line method of teaching by stream lining what is “important”. Human’s become a valuable part of a whole when they understand their individual value, skills and passions.

Schools Kill Creativity Lecture – Notable Quotes

Creativity now is as important in education as literacy, and we should treat it with the same status.

Every education system on Earth has the same hierarchy of subjects: at the top are mathematics and languages, then the humanities, and the bottom are the arts. There isn’t an education system on the planet that teaches dance everyday to children the way we teach them mathematics. Why?

Many highly talented, brilliant, creative people think they’re not — because the thing they were good at at school wasn’t valued, or was actually stigmatized.

You were probably steered benignly away from things at school when you were a kid — things you liked — on the grounds that you would never get a job doing that: ‘Don’t do music, you’re not going to be a musician. Don’t do art, you won’t be an artist.’ Benign advice — now, profoundly mistaken.

Is it ADHD or Untapped Potential?

I’m doing a new book at the moment called “Epiphany,” which is based on a series of interviews with people about how they discovered their talent. I’m fascinated by how people got to be there. It’s really prompted by a conversation I had with a wonderful woman who maybe most people have never heard of; she’s called Gillian Lynne –have you heard of her? Some have. She’s a choreographer and everybody knows her work. She did “Cats” and “Phantom of the Opera.” She’s wonderful. I used to be on the board of the Royal Ballet in England, as you can see. Anyway, Gillian and I had lunch one day and I said, “Gillian, how’d you get to be a dancer?” And she said it was interesting; when she was at school,she was really hopeless. And the school, in the ’30s,wrote to her parents and said, “We think Gillian has a learning disorder.” She couldn’t concentrate;she was fidgeting. I think now they’d say she had ADHD. Wouldn’t you? But this was the 1930s,and ADHD hadn’t been invented at this point.It wasn’t an available condition. People weren’t aware they could have that.

Anyway, she went to see this specialist. So, this oak-paneled room, and she was there with her mother,and she was led and sat on this chair at the end,and she sat on her hands for 20 minutes while this man talked to her mother about all the problems Gillian was having at school. And at the end of it –because she was disturbing people; her homework was always late; and so on, little kid of eight — in the end, the doctor went and sat next to Gillian and said, “Gillian, I’ve listened to all these things that your mother’s told me, and I need to speak to her privately.” He said, “Wait here. We’ll be back; we won’t be very long,” and they went and left her. But as they went out the room, he turned on the radio that was sitting on his desk. And when they got out the room, he said to her mother, “Just stand and watch her.” And the minute they left the room, she said, she was on her feet, moving to the music. And they watched for a few minutes and he turned to her mother and said, “Mrs. Lynne, Gillian isn’t sick; she’s a dancer.Take her to a dance school.”

I said, “What happened?” She said, “She did. I can’t tell you how wonderful it was. We walked in this room and it was full of people like me. People who couldn’t sit still. People who had to move to think. They did ballet; they did tap; they did jazz; they did modern; they did contemporary. She was eventually auditioned for the Royal Ballet School; she became a soloist; she had a wonderful career at the Royal Ballet. She eventually graduated from the Royal Ballet School and founded her own company — the Gillian Lynne Dance Company — met Andrew Lloyd Weber. She’s been responsible for some of the most successful musical theater productions in history; she’s given pleasure to millions; and she’s a multi-millionaire. Somebody else might have put her on medication and told her to calm down.